“At Last, My Love Has Come Along! My Lonely Days Are Over & Life Is Like A Song.”

-Etta James/Beyonce “At Last”

Yes. You’ve found love, I can tell! We all can tell. No one can hide from the happiness of love, it’s written all over your face. Love always happens when we least expect it from the most unlikely source. We all vow to one day have that last first dance with the person we truly love & decide to spend the rest of our life with. Marriage is the ultimate sacrifice that we all wish to one day have to take.

Is marriage the final pursuit of happiness in love? Will being married make a hopeless romantic happy? The day we all choose to take the plunge is a well thought out, well planned event The music, guest and that first dance together is something we all wish to one day make these decisions. But will these decisions truly complete our search for love? Do we ever stop growing from love? Marriage is the final exam of a lifetime of searching for it and once we’ve found it does it mean we pass the test?

Love is not easy, being in love in not easy and many of us won’t get to those decisions if we don’t eliminate those barriers that stop us from getting there. These days compared to the good ol’ days are very different; we have so much to preoccupy us from getting married, as compared to the old days where love & marriage was the ultimate test of love.  Love is about sacrifice either way you look at it something has to be given up to get to that stage the question is what are we all willing to give up?

At last we hope for our lonely days to be over but do we truly stop searching for love or should marriage and the ultimate test of love only motivate us to love harder.

By K.E.L.L.s

Love & Life Pt. 6 (Incomplete Happiness)

Being in love is an essential tool needed to complete success. It can & will always complete who we are. But what do we do when that piece to the puzzle leaves? Or it no longer fits in our master plan of our life?

It’s sad to say that with upgrades in life come downgrades of who we let in or stay in our life. We all don’t fit into each others plan or overall goal for life, some breakups are bad & others are for the best. But being in love completes many of us & when we lose it there’s a feeling of failure, a feeling as if it won’t happen again, like it’s our fault that we can’t love. We all know people who lose their “soul mate” or who we thought was the best match for them only to see them struggle with love once they look again! Why is that? On one hand we all know the “true” feelings of our heart & we only look for love to take our mind off of what or who we really wanna be with.

No matter how happy we pretend to be without love or that “true” love we are incomplete. Nothing else can feel the void of love! Good Luck with the search!

By K.E.L.L.s

Love & Life Pt. 5 (Whenever, Wherever, Whatever) [The Maxwell Edition]

“…& if there’s a thing that you need, I’d give you the breath that I breath and if ever u yearned for the love of me…Whenever, Wherever, Whatever”

-Maxwell “Whenever, Wherever, Whatever”

You can’t run, hide, escape or stay away from love. It’s the one thing needed to be happy & the one thing that conquers all. But once we love can we fall out of it? People go from happy to sad every single day. But can we alter our emotions from love? Would you want to? It’s understood that with every relationship good or bad we learn something about our self as well as others! But should we hold on to those emotions that connected us to that person!

Ever gotten called by the name of your mates EX? Or have u ever called them his/her name by a mistake? Love is forever the tricky thing is we say we love people when we really don’t? We just have a strong connection with them or they hold that special piece to your heart but when you reach true love then you will understand that every other time was just practice.

It’s hard to get over the past. Whenever they wanna see us we’re down, wherever & most times at whatever time. Every time that makeup happens you wish this was the time to stick, but once a love is gone should it stay gone? Hopefully when that Whenever, Wherever, Whatever happens we are single & free to seize the moment.

By K.E.L.L.s

Love & Life Pt. 4 (This Women’s Worth) [The Maxwell Edition]

“All The Things We Should of said, that we never said…All the things we should of did that we never did….All the things we should of given but I didn’t.”

-Maxwell “This Women’s worth”

Life often mirrors art, we work hard, live hard & most importantly we love hard. Ever lose someone you knew was for you? Somehow there are a lot of miscommunications & wouldn’t or could never work? The strongest emotion we have is love & the heart break or heart ache associated with it. Love can over power any feeling or void of anything else in your life.

Love is powerful & having that feeling makes you feel invincible or unstoppable to whatever is at hand or whatever obstacle we have in front of us.

But what can or should we do when we lose that love? Losing love can be result of a lot of things outside forces, growing apart or the love just isn’t the same. It’s hard for us to understand the lose of someone that we felt so strongly for, but everything has to come to an end no matter how good the feeling. Sometime the bad simply outweighs the good regardless of the seriousness of the problem.

“Give me these moments, give them back to me, give me your little kiss, give me your…give me your hand babe, give me your pretty hand.”

We find our self day dreaming about him/her & confused about our next move or even worse where do we start? Should I go back to an ex? Start fresh? Try to make it work? We have a million different reasons as to why we make our choices, what’s it worth to you?

By K.E.L.L.s

Love & Life Pt. 3 (Good Morning Love)

“…If I could plan the perfect day love, I would start it just like this…Good Morning Love its my favorite love song, I waited all night long”

-John Legend “Good Morning”

Wasn’t it good? So good you wanted to buy him a short set? Mind blowing, heart racing, leg shaking, body quivering, heavy breathing, good loving! If sex makes or breaks a relationship what does good sex do? Or even worst horrible sex? The question is how is it possible to have bad sex with someone your really into? Would that make or break you relationship? To find someone who does you right is hard. But how does it affect us when we do find it?

Good sex can change your life; it will have you dressing different, talking different & all around make you a different person.

Waking up to good love makes you smile all day, grinning when your alone & have you day dreaming at night. Some believe good love creates a positive energy in our life. Makes you wanna do better, feel better & improve those faults. Given the right mate of course. Love & Life should be defined as good love; we would all be so powerful & unstoppable with good love, good sex & support.

Have you found it yet?

By K.E.L.L.s

Love & Life Pt. 2 (The Hurtful Truth)

Does this hurtful comment have a receipt? Does this staggering piece of truth have a expiration date? Or can I take that back!?
-Kanye “Heartless” VH1s Storyteller

Ever loved someone you knew you couldn’t love? Is he/she the only one for you at the same time the only one you can’t be with? Life is already confusing only to add in a deadly dose of love. We go through love & life pretending to have an understanding of both or believe we are secure in our relationship only to read about couples being together for 20+ years then suddenly getting a divorce. What hope do I have at a few months if 20+ years are failing?

Hurtful comments are our only defense mechanism to a broken heart or to avoid one, only to realize we wouldn’t have said it had we not still had feelings for that person. At some point we all lose our cool & say something that’ll have us looking like a fool to only laugh at it days, weeks, months or sometime years later like why the hell did I say/do that?

Its not that our truth of our mate is false, it’s just that we sometime dwell on things that need no energy. Arguments often start from the slightest misunderstanding of a problem, fueled by miscommunication & driven by our idle thoughts. A bored mind is a dangerous mind.

Hearing your flaws out loud from a lover is devastating. You are not encouraging your mate to change by aggressively confronting their issues. Rather than dwell on the problem, create a solution. At what point do we stop and say I have to change, not for love or life but for myself, love is the easiest thing in the world, but yet we all have problems with it? Why do we love the emotion love so much? When it seems to hate us? Now that’s the hurtful truth.

By K.E.L.L.s

Love & Life Pt. 1 (Right Time, Wrong Place)

What age do we become adults? When does the problem of the real world affect you & your motives for love? We meet people every day but the right place, right time & right circumstances must be in place for the relationship to take flight, for it to be able to sustain enough strength for it to work things must be right. Love is easy at a young age, before the real world grind & hustle of it all plaques us. We have no cares for what’s real and/or the problems of priorities.

Ever wish you met him/her 2 months earlier or a year ago? Meeting a person at that exact perfect moment is very rare it’s either too early or just not right. School, work, responsibilities or other obligations make it far too hard & we’ve all been hit by this sad truth. Why can’t some admit to it or realize that this is even a factor? Your job, you starting school, you promising yourself to focus on your goals more so than last year, all of these things hinder love, so why do we make a big deal when we already know most of these things & love still fail?

Wouldn’t it be beautiful to gaze into his/her eyes all day without worrying about going to work, paying bills or even being successful? We all want substance in our life but are unwilling to invest what it takes to get to that point?

At what point do we put small problems aside & look at the bigger picture? As of right now you gotta strike while the iron is hot. Nothing is promised in life & sadly we are in a time where we have to work 3 times as hard as the next person to get ahead.

We often hold each other back without even realizing it only to later realize. Time well spent now could & most likely will affect your life later. Love, Life & the real problems we face are a battle we each face but can there be a balance?

By K.E.L.L.s

“DUMB CUPID (Cupid’s Amnesia) PT. 3 THE FINAL CHAPTER”

*Originally Written May 21, 2007

Many times it feels like the harder we look for love the harder it is to find it….Like cupid just Forgot About Us….think about all those times you tried to make it work with someone that from jump was doomed or ALL those nights you went to sleep alone with no one to call or anyone calling you but soon as you get someone that old flame come crawling back and throw a monkey wrench in your plans, even worst is those that pop up out the clear blue, like people that have already been in ya life and once you get settled with someone they confess their love to you!

When we are alone cupid has all together forgotten about us, rather than providing us with love he turns his back on us and gives it to many around you! Being in love is a great thing when your looking for It.

Being in love is like being in a party that’s popping that they not invited too while being lonely feels like waiting on line to get into that party in the rain and the bouncer just keep saying back up.

When we find love it becomes disposable, we treat love like its SO easy to find, but while were looking for it we go to any extent…..love is strong, blind and stubborn…there is someone for everyone and most never find that person but settle for what is convenient and available…how many people you know that are in relationships with people that you know aren’t meant to be, rather than being lonely and entering that world of looking for love we settle for what we know will be there…!

Only when cupid decides to open our heart do we realize that the person we are with is “WEAK WORK” , being in a bad relationship is just as worst as being single or lonely, now there is a difference between being single and lonely, you can be in a relationship with someone for 5 years and be lonely, being lonely is a state of feeling not wanted or needed while being single is just simply not involved, many of us have our best relationships while being single and not sexual, I mean those one to one relationships that don’t nor need a title…..

Bad relationships drain energy!

So why does cupid tend to forget about Us from time to time? Maybe its a lesson being taught? Maybe he just doesn’t care about us? Why does he keep it moving on a job he was given to do?

Don’t you just wish you can just grab the person you Love and confess your self to them, honesty has taken a vacation back seat and lies are the new “IT” so as a guy that plan wouldn’t work, as a female there is too much pride! So what are we all suppose to do? What move can be made in a game where nobody seems to be winning? Love is a mystery and just like a mystery movie or book once its over and done we often still don’t get it!!!!

By K.E.L.L.s

“DUMB CUPID PT. 2 (Cupid’s Revenge)”

*Originally Written May 14, 2007

Cupid is a funny dude just when you think you’ve got it right or figured it out he does something to blow your mind….how many times have you been in love, in what seemingly is a good or decent relationship, then wake up one morning and have that dreadful feeling of being trapped or cramped….commitment is HARD it’s one of the worst parts in any relationship, many people think of it as a bad thing and at times it can be…when you go out it’s for two, when you buy something you gotta think of the other person, when you have food WE have food, you have money WE have money, it can be over bearing, especially now where relationships have become a thing of the past…..but sometimes that feeling is so strong we decide the best thing to do is to end it and be alone or even better find another person.

BUT that other person comes with other problems so at the surface finding a new person is a beautiful thing…WHY? At the start of a new relationship it’s the best, getting to know one another & everyday is a NEW day…isn’t it beautiful!!!

But after awhile you’re like why the hell am I with you? You start to have those same feelings as before & move to the next that “Cupid’s CHOKEHOLD” but you end up in the same situation with the same feelings and/or results. The only thing we have to go off in love is our feelings. When that feeling of “getting’ the hell out” settles in our brain we tend to believe that’s what we truly want…but you never know what you got till it’s gone!!!!

Unfortunately we realize what we had when we tell them to be gone…. Cupid has a strange way of teaching our us a lesson…many times when we end what we think is a bad relationship or one that has reached the end of its road, we move on & for a while we good!!! Then “good” goes away & emotions take over & you realize WAIT I did love that person…but because of that pride we don’t pursue it again, not only does pride keep us from it but maybe the breakup itself….people go hard when breaking up why? We Emotionally fool our self that we don’t need that person.

When someone says they LOVE a person then bad mouths them that is the GAME, they are doing it to make they self feel good, we are ALL suspects to this crime, but CUPID will teach u a lesson.

We then realize one day we made a HUGE mistake & once you realize this day by day we want that person back.

Cupid then adds another problem to our situation and what is it…..YOU KNOW!!! A damn asshole, a clown, a person who can’t even compare to that other person but that pride of ours keeps us with that person in fear of looking like a ass & going back….so we stay wit that obviously bad choice instead of being real wit our selves…..

Cupids Revenge is a mighty & strong thing, when he strikes he does it for real…..the best and ONLY way to avoid this problem is to continuously recreate your relationship…people are quick to dismiss problems rather than trying to fix something that is already there, even if it’s a huge problem and the solution isn’t always the “ahhhh fuck it” equation.

Cupid will keep a revengeful arrow for you….and this will continue to be a problem until you face what you really want.

Cupid doesn’t hold back and neither should we, he will have us in a chokehold and the next day release his wrath with revenge so play the game right or you will get played!!!

Karma is a bitch and she going always be one angry bitter bitch when that circle comes back for your ass its going be a vicious occurrence…people say life is short, but life is LONG especially when you make the wrong choices…

Life is about choices and the right one can make or break you so before you rid yourself of that person and dream of saying that infamous saying “oh I’m so glad its over….it feels like a weight is lifted of my back” think about what that person means to you and your future. Love will always blind you and have you believing you can do way better when in fact love is playing you for a fool and setting your ass up for the big let down!

Choose Your Heart & Not Your Pride!

By K.E.L.L.s

“DUMB CUPID PT. 1 (Cupid’s Chokehold)”

*Originally Written March 7, 2007

“I know this gonna sound so old but cupid got me in a chokehold…”
-Gym Class Heroes “Cupid’s Chokehold”

Does Is Seems like Cupid has so many arrows for You? Ever seem like you fall in love all too often? Are you a hopeless romantic? Why can’t it just be one arrow to find that true love?

We often ask our self…Why is it so hard? What the fuck am I doing wrong? Am I being too HONEST? Too laid back? Too forward? Too Much Pride? Am I an asshole? A dick? A jerk? What is it?….Nothing…..Love is over saturated with bullshit, its easy to say what killed a lot of things, but what killed the Love???

Its hard to pick what is real, with such easy access to social networks it has put a blindfold on what is real, the playing field has been leveled since we now meet dozens of new people each day its hard to pick whose what they say they are.

Does cupid keep us in a chokehold to make available to us a variety? Variety is good but is it real? Does it create a false sense of what love is? Finding love becomes a job, interrogation and interview style dates create a hopeless state of mind to finding love. Should love be plentiful and many or few and exclusive? With each failed “attempt” at love we lose a LITTLE piece of our self.

Males get grilled because of the mistakes of others, males believe females fall in love because of material things, So untrue, when a female loves you, she loves YOU, now your “material things” may have gotten you noticed but not that reason for her loving you!

NOW! Would you rather someone love you for your success or for your failures? It’s deep; Think about it, being Real and Keeping it real seem to be two different things. In love and relationships sometimes “some” go above and beyond, love me for me! We Say, Not For who or what I have!….a room full of negatives will always crowd out the positive.

Males stay on Females back in the club who may have had 100 dudes try to holla and by that 101st their done…NOW that could of been a good guy but his timing was bad….many times we meet someone that were really into but because of jerks, assholes, fronters and lames we limit that persons chances because of their timing which means a lot in life!

LOVE is over saturated with lames and losers…finding love is hard as a ever, we don’t know who to believe we need to start running names through a “Lame-0-Meter”…we should be allowed to run a people credit checks on people when we get involved to eliminate all the BS. Rather than communicating we “assume” in love. Instead of assuming shouldn’t we ask?

Cupid is crazy and in his crazy ass ways he usually puts people in our life for a reason but every now and again he gets beside his self and throws that person in your life that ruins it for a lot of other potentially good people!!!!!

Your lifestyle and the things you chose to be and do in life stay with you forever so how bout instead of trying to hard to figure out if a person is real or not create substance in yours and STOP playing psychologist…lets fall in love and stop the mind games…Because cupid will keep you in that chokehold!!

By K.E.L.L.s