BATTLE OF THE SEXES VOL.6 (Love Lockdown)

*Originally Written August 7, 2008

I’m not loving you, way I wanted too, what I had to do, had to run from you…I’m in love with you! But the vibe is wrong”
-Love Lockdown “Kanye West”

Why do we continue with relationships that are headed in the wrong direction, we try to convince our self that it’s “just me” when in reality it’s just that bad ass relationship. Bad relationship mixed with heavy emotion and a feeling of this has to work are a beautiful mix of a horrible situation.

Love is hard and a continuing work in progress, but should it feel like work?

Both Males & Females may want a relationship to work but why does it feel like we’re continuing to work against each other rather than with each other? It’s ironic, we want so much but are willing to give back so little? If your girlfriend/boyfriend doesn’t react positively to how you are handling any given circumstance why continue to do it? The nagging, the jealously, the back and fourth, is it really that much to let that part of our self go that we doom our own relationship?

“I wanna move but can’t escape from you”
-Love Lockdown “Kanye West”

Most bad relationships do require some type of emotional connection, it may not be that we are bad people but some personalities do not go together. How obvious does it have to be? Some couples can’t even hold a civil convo without a blowup. What has to happen for us to move on?

“I can’t keep myself and still keep you too”
-Love Lockdown “Kanye West”

We lose ourselves in bad relationships, we become forced to act out of character which leads us to perform random acts of clownishness. Is it possibly to stay yourself and continue in a relationship that forces us to change who we are? Bad relationships cause us to become another person who we are not. We lose our self in the distorted image of what that person wants us to be. Males & females both fall victim to this so what has to happen to not be the victim? Love can lock you down and have you believe that your a horrible person for feeling what your feeling but is it that? Or is it that the other person cannot handle hearing your feelings? What are we to do with & without love? YES. I know. confusing aint it!?!?

By K.E.L.L.s

BATTLE OF THE SEXES VOL.5 (Perfect Imperfections)

What is being perfect? Does it even exist? Can you put a face or voice to it? How can we define something so specific when we all have different views, tastes, lifestyles, sexualities, incomes, interest, wants, and beliefs? Are you perfect? Are you able to look at your significant other and say you are perfect?

Men & Women view perfection on different levels; looks, education, income and sometimes even religion all these things are different variations of what we define as perfection.

We would love to meet someone with every criteria checked off on our personal significant other checklist, but would your own view of perfection truly make you happy? The beauty of love is learning & growing.

What’s the purpose of falling if love was so perfect; the joy of love and perfection is falling. Love is hard; it is a work in progress.

Love is a strong commitment, it last a lifetime & can not be tainted nor faded, time does not substitute love, some stories aren’t epic novels, that doesn’t make them filled with love. Perfection weakens love; it isn’t until we get what we thought we wanted to realize what we had.”

The perfect thing about love is imperfections, those differences of qualities that we each possess, it makes getting to know a person worth it and it’s what makes us human, perfect imperfections.

Going in and out of relationships taints our view on what perfect really is! Does it not? No? Yes! Time most often substitutes for love, leading us to believe that our previous was better than our current. We get so accustomed to having things done this way that “this way” becomes the right way. With every relationship we need to unlearn those habits, if we became so use to how things were in our previous relationship does that make how it was right? And if so why didn’t we stay? Should we continue to hold onto those old ways of an ex-lover?

Loving someone is just that, loving them. When you love someone you love them for “them not for this and that, if we were able to pick and choose attributes of what we want our lover to possess would we love them the same? Is it not the way they are that made us fall for them, words are dangerous and it ruins relationships, so choose what you say wisely because you can make a ass out of yourself by assuming, but what other feelings are we to possess if we can’t assume?

By K.E.L.L.s

BATTLE OF THE SEXES VOL.4 (The Bottom Of The Pu**y Hole)

“The Man That Is Living To ejaculate he’s in a predator mode…he will look for the weakness in a women, a women who is lonely….don’t let EVERYMAN hit the bottom of your vagina, the root of your vagina”
-Alexyss Tylor “Bottom of the Pu**y Hole”

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What Is Love? Is Love Great communication? Is it admiring someone for their goals & accomplishments? Or is it simply great sex? That kind of sexual adventure that’ll have you twisting & bending in ways you thought unimaginable. Sex clouds the direction of a relationship, done too early could lead to good or bad things, done too late could turn a person off

The only thing certain in life is uncertainty; its unpredictable outcome is what makes love worth chasing. Males and females chase it very differently most often ending up in the same place. Sex often substitutes happiness, the better the sex the harder the love. Really? Yes. Think about it.

To hit “the bottom of the pu**y hole” is to truly satisfy a female, luckily for females and unfortunate at the same time it doesn’t take much to satisfy a male, guys are often too self indulgent to take the time to truly satisfy a female sexually, once a female gets that bottom hitter they are riding with him to the end. The end being whatever her limit of shit she’s willing to do to keep that guy, most females differ from guys in the number of sexual partners there willing to have in their lifetime and they’ll ride out even with a partner who is clueless in the bedroom. Why? Because female are settlers while men remain predators.

Females are honestly looking for love and it’s sad that many don’t find it, love and sex gets tangled far too often and great sex replaces genuine love…

“…don’t let EVERYMAN hit the bottom of your vagina, the root of your vagina”

Females try to choose relationships wisely, but in all actuality ALL relationships remain the same with the only noticeable changes occurring is personalities and the understanding of each other, every relationship is suppose to be a fresh start but both males and females bring in past problems, failures and heartbreaks into that new love. How can we love if we never forget, when do we stop giving our all to everyone we love? Should that even be a question? How can we start new if love remains the same?

How can a female not give her all every time out if their looking to settle? So how can she not allow everyman she’s in a committed relationship with to hit the bottom? Sometimes its inevitable, women need to learn to deal with their attachments and separate the love, the orgasm and the penis. In Love, sex & relationships we all, both males & females become sexually & emotionally attached, try to play cool fellas and let me know how u feel when she head for the door…

Males lack that “mind sex.” To truly love someone is more than just taking it down, really get to know a person, their likes, dislikes and it’ll make the sex that much better.

By K.E.L.L.s

BATTLE OF THE SEXES VOL.3 (Should He Really Put a Ring On It?)

All My Single Ladies. All My Single Ladies. Yea Yea we all Know the routine, we all know that if he liked it he should of put a ring on it and perhaps he is tight that somebody else got it, but let’s be real not every song plays to your favor, once again we have a anthem that convinces every female that they are worthy of something that most aren’t.

Most females truly believe they are a total packaged deal & ready to be snatched off the shelf with no assembly required.

In our society it is more acceptable for a female to have less checked off our lives to-do list, while a male must have a purpose, a list of goals, in most cases a car, a place or even money.

Females aren’t to blame for this, most males aren’t at all concerned with what positive reflections of success a female has. We have simply put beauty ahead of longevity, so for him to put a ring on it shouldn’t you bring more to the table than just beauty? Females become complacent in life more easily than males. However, males always seem to get the short end of the stick.

Its not that he didn’t wanna put a ring on it but certain things must be in place before a man feels confortable to pop that question, ironically, in life all those things will never be in place at the same time, so its up to you to determine when is right, that does not mean putting a time limit on your relationship. Some relationships stand no grounds for marriage & it’s pretty obvious when it won’t work.

So before dropping down low & sweeping the floor with it, then turn & ask why he didn’t put a ring on it? Take a look in the mirror & ask yourself am I marriage worthy? There is no such thing as perfection but we have to find what we consider to be closest thing to it and love it, at the same time we have to have self growth for someone to want to put it on that finger.

So should he really put a ring on it?

By K.E.L.L.s

BATTLE OF THE SEXES VOL.2 (The 80/20 RULE)

Love is like heaven but can hurt like hell, love is blind, love is a two way street we have heard it all, but now we have one that makes PERFECT sense “The 80/20 Rule.”

The 80/20 rule, made more popularly now by the Tyler Perry Movie “Why Did I Get Married?” is in reference to love which says that in love and/or relationship you ONLY get about 80% of what you need from your mate. Sometimes we meet someone who has that other 20% that we’re not getting and the 20% looks real good, but if you trade your 80% for that 20%, then you’ll really see how good you had it. When we lack something in a relationship both guys and girls take different approaches to filling that void

Females can withstand more “lack” in a relationship than a guy. Guys will dead a relationship if he doesn’t like the way a female chews her food and to justify it he’ll simply say” man I just couldn’t deal,” while a female will stay with a guy throughout numerous faults & flaws. Why? Because if a female will see only one trait to which she admires she will deal

Many times you’ve heard a female complain about her dude for hours only to say “But” he does do this right. Most often a female never finds her 80 just replaces it with whatever it takes for her to deal, guys search around for “perfection” while we continue to not perfect our selves. How can we expect females to have they shit together if we don’t? None of us are perfect but everyday is suppose to be a improvement of the last, your 80 can be your 100 if we all motivate & support one another. Many times we leave a relationship forgetting that some people need to be taught to love or to even be in a relationship. We want perfection out the gate but how realistic is that?

By K.E.L.L.s

BATTLE OF THE SEXES VOL.1 (LOGIC vs. EMOTION)

Most men are strategic thinkers hardly ever making decisions based on emotions and feeling, but on logic. Most females make decisions whether minor or major, right or wrong based off raw emotion. Their decision are usually bought fourth from a logic point of view but made out of emotion.

A female can know her dude is cheating on her, logically she should do something about it but doesn’t. Females are just like the cops, they can have all the evidence in the world but want the confession and won’t be satisfied until they get it. More so then men, females can withstand more in a relationship than ANY male could ever, in the slightest chance of a female cheating, the relationship is doomed.

Males can’t deal with the fact of another in between the legs of something that’s ours. Eddie Murphy once said it is a males job to conquer as much pussy as we can, so with things like that instilled in us we go after as much as we could, females, however cheat for more lacking by their mate reasonings.

We all have different definitions of what cheating is but most times it is used as revenge.

Sex and revenge do not belong together. It is a very dangerous combo, people usually grow feelings or realize it wasn’t worth it. Logically we never know what we got till it’s gone, respect who you are with and don’t get hit with the gaffle stick.

The grass always looks greener on the other side but perhaps it’s only greener cuz is fake grass Or perhaps that person possesses that 20% to our 80%

Be logically but follow your emotions.

To be continued…

By K.E.L.L.s